
My dear friend Chuck was born 27 years ago today. This year for her birthday she wanted a party. And so we gave her one. It was a long and fun day for me. It began this morning as I awoke with my grocery list running through my head. I did three brand new recipes! After work I went over to the grocery store, it was the middle of the day. I'm never at the grocery store in the middle of the day, let me tell you, that's when you should go. Not because it is quiet, you should go because it isn't. I was walking down the baking aisle when an elderly man stopped across from me and asked; "Do you speak English or a foreign language?", "Ummm, both?" I replied, not sure why he was asking because he spoke perfect English. "Look at these toothpicks!" he said, placing the small paper box two inches from my face. "Did you know that almost all toothpicks used to be manufactured in Maine?" he asked, I did not know this, and said as much. He shook his head in dismay. "You know, the round ones, not the flat ones, they made the round ones because Maine grows the right kind of trees for the round ones!". "Look at this box!" he said again, and I looked, wondering intently as to where this was going. "They're made in China, China!" he exclaimed. "I can't even be sure these are made of wood!" Ah, there was the point, he must be trying to make a statement about outsourcing to foreign countries. He wasn't. He went on to talk about how those very toothpicks from Maine had been the cure to his wife's gum disease, and her savior from surgery; and now he didn't even know if they were really wood! It was a dilemma. "Do you use toothpicks?" he asked, I nodded, "Then you now how important they are! I need to know if these are plastic. I bet you that's what they are!" He was becoming very animated by now, and I believed him when he told me he was off to find out. I then politely excused myself as I had a long grocery list to procure and not a lot of time. I thought about the toothpick man as I wandered the aisles. He was really concerned about those toothpicks. As I turned the corner down the cereal aisle there he was. He had cornered two unsuspecting men neither of which worked at the store, telling them of his misgivings about the origins of the toothpicks in his hand. I watched the faces of these men as he spoke, they were slightly uncomfortable but seemed interested in what he had to say. I was surprised how long they both stood there listening, and it was a few minutes before one of them even looked remotely as if he wanted to escape. I, of course, was watching this whole exchange from behind a box of Grape Nuts. I saw him again in the produce section, entreating a girl who worked in the deli to listen to his cause to bring back the wooden toothpick, if in fact they no longer exist. I'm pretty sure whatever type of toothpick was in his little box, they were wooden.
The point of all of this, and yes there is one, is that four people including myself and probably others I didn't see, took the time today to talk to a man about toothpicks. They talked to him knowing there was probably no real necessity for the conversation, but engaged in it because this man wanted to talk. He had interesting stories about Maine's production of toothpicks, and his wife's oral hygiene, and he wanted to share. In doing so he invoked smiles from others, and shared unfounded facts about nothing at all really. How often do we even do that in our communities anymore? How often do we think to engage in conversation in the grocery store aisle just because someone is standing next to us? Now I know we are busy, we have things to do, and it is possible that this sweet man has little audience at home and was craving interaction. But I was most surprised at this entire string of interactions because of the novelty of it all to those of us experiencing it, when it probably doesn't need to be such a novel thing, talking to our neighbors, or random members of our community in the grocery store. Just think how much more I know about toothpicks now because of five minutes I spent in the baking aisle talking to this nice man. More importantly it was one more smile I smiled today. Humanity is a funny, quirky thing, we should indulge it more often. I'll get past the grocery store and tell you about the goods for the party in my next post. I got a little carried away with the "toothpick guy" story.